To avoid a cultural faux pas FAIL, it’s important to remember which country you’re in! I forgot. HONEST!
MOTHER’S DAY FAIL!
Originally Published in Western Outdoor News the Week of May 16, 2012
I love sharing a bit of Mexican culture in these columns.
As I’m writing this, I realize I really screwed up. Have you ever forgotten an important day of the year? Like your anniversary? A birthday?
Well, I forgot that today (May 10th) is Mother’s Day! Oops. Fail. Scramble to make phone calls…e-greeting cards…and other face-saving measures!
You see, in my brain, Mother’s day is always the 2nd Sunday of May. That’s May 13th in the U.S.
But here in Mexico, it’s May 10th. Every year. Same date. It doesn’t matter if it’s on a Sunday, a Tuesday, a Thursday or the full moon. May 10th is Mother’s Day and you’d better not forget it.
In Mexico, where culturally mom is the focus of pretty much everything, she is pretty much a saint. Where the concept of the centralized family and where generations often continue to live under the same roof or everyone lives within tortilla-tossing proximity to each other, moms, grandmoms, aunties, etc. are held in high esteem. And never so highly as on Mother’s Day.
(That’s why you NEVER EVER EVER call out a man’s mom. Those are fighting words and one of the highest insults. Don’t mess with a man’s mom in Mexico.)
Whereas Fathers Day barely draws a breeze, much of the country takes on a semi-holiday atmosphere. It’s pretty much a state holiday.
Mom’s don’t go to work or take long leisurely and sometimes elegant lunches much like the Sunday brunches seen in the U.S. Sons and family members stop working as well to enjoy the day with moms. Offices shut down. Stores close early. Kids sometimes play hookie and don’t go to school. (On Mom’s day, mom is not lifting a finger…that includes driving the kids to school!). Conversely, to keep the kids from taking the day off, many schools hold Mother’s Day pageants and recitals and invite moms to attend.
The whole country is on the same page, so it’s really not that big of a social impact. It’s like the day before Christmas or that last day of school before summer vacation. No one’s head is there. No one expects much efficiency anyway! Not much gets done.
Some families, especially the sons, go through some elaborate expressions of adoration. Huge bouquets of flower. Rooms of flowers! Sons will hire mariachi groups to sing outside mom’s window or all the sons will get together in the evening and serenade mom themselves accompanied by a boom box.
There will be incredible home parties either catered or home-cooked. Often, all the guys do the cooking so the moms can have the day off. In some homes where the mom does ALL the cooking every single meal and every single day, this might be the ONLY day of the year that the men cook or even approach the stove…sometimes to varying results!
Restaurants will have elegant brunches, lunches and dinners set out with Mothers’ Day specials and families will show up dressed in their jackets and ties, dresses and corsages as if headed for a grand social event…which is what Dia De Las Madres is in Mexico.
Historically, Dia de Las Madres was not always as we know it. In 1922, it was brought over from the U.S, but met with significant opposition from the conservative government who attempted to use the holiday to promote the unrealistic concept of women as no more than child bearers!
Over the next decade, the powers in Mexico debated the day as either being too “patriotic” or being “too religious” with all the connotations those labels involved. It got pretty heated and the Mexican political parties as well as the Church argued the current morals and values of the day such as empowering women, family values, country unity and basically whether women should be let out of the home! It wasn’t just a Hallmark thing!
It wasn’t until the 40’s…to be exact in 1940, Soledad Orozco Garcia, wife of President Manuel Avilla Camacho, declared 10th May a holiday, thus making it a state-sponsored celebration of mother’s day …and why I need to find some place that sells some quick Mothers’ Day Cards here in La Paz! Or a boombox with a microphone! I really messed up…
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Jonathan Roldan has been writing the Baja Column in Western Outdoor News since 2004. Along with his wife, Jill, they own and run the Tailhunter International Fishing Fleet in La Paz, Baja, Mexico www.tailhunter-international.com. They also run their Tailhunter Restaurant Bar on the famous La Paz malecon waterfront. If you’d like to contact him directly, his e-mail is riplipboy@tailhunter-international.com or drop by the restaurant to say hi!
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